Manners and your daughter
Mon, 09 July 2012 14:27:17
By: Kay West
Your daughter is becoming a young lady if...
She refers to an adult as Mr., Mrs., or Ms. until she is asked to do otherwise.
She greets and converses with adult friends and acquaintances in a friendly and courteous
She shows respect by standing when introduced.
She performs introductions, using first and last names among peers and Mr. and Mrs. when
referring to adults.
When introducing members of her family to others, she explains the relationship. “This is
my mother, Mrs. Chappell, and my sister Lily.”
She does not roll her eyes or scowl when an adult relative is determined to pinch her cheek, pat her head, hug, or kiss her but simply bears up as best she can. She will be confronted with far more unappealing social situations later in her life.
Know the basic rules of introductions. Always make introductions when people in a
group do not know one another. Always include your daughter in the
introductions, but do not require more from her than she is comfortable with.
Do not tell your daughter to kiss or hug someone when it has not been requested of her.
Try This at Home
Act out some scenarios at home, enlisting the aid of siblings, spouse, or friends. Pretend you and your daughter are in a public place and you run across a teacher from her school. Allow your daughter to make the introductions: “Dad, this is Mrs. Potter, the art
teacher at my school. Mrs. Potter, this is my father, Lindsey Chappell.” Pretend you run into one of your clients at a mall. “Anna, this is Julie Thompson. She does our design work. Julie, this is my oldest daughter, Anna.” Anna responds, “Hello, Mrs. Thompson,” and
offers her hand if Mrs. Thompson offers hers first. Practice a firm handshake.
Some Good Advice
People often say they cannot remember names, but that is less faulty memory and more a lack of focus during an introduction. When people are introduced to you, repeat their name back to them at that moment, and again when you say good-bye. This practice will help you focus more during the introduction, and repeating the name will help you remember.
This is an extract from How to Raise a Lady by Kay West. To buy the book now, click here